How To Shift Your Reality To Attract Your Soulmate ( Full 2026 Guide)

Here's something nobody wants to hear:

The reason you haven't met your soulmate isn't because you haven't found them yet. It's because you're not ready for them (yet) 

Not in a mean way. Not in a "you're not good enough" way. But in a "you're still operating from a version of yourself that can't hold that level of love you’re asking for" way.

The thing is, most people treat relationships like a lottery:

• They pray. 
• They swipe. 
• They manifest. 

They ask the universe for signs.

 And then they wonder why they keep attracting the same type of person over and over again.

The truth is: 

Manifestation without personal evolution is just wishful thinking.

As mentioned above, I rarely cover relationships and private matters in my letters, why? It’s quite simple: I always think ‘Who am I to give you love advice while at this point I have a second bachelor's in single life? (Actually, let's call it what it is.. a bachelor's in celibacy.)’

But nonetheless, I have students who've been asking about soulmate relationships, and since we're almost into the love, valentines season, I figured it would be good to just give you a universal system to think about this.

So here's what I've learned:

 

1) Get to know yourself and your birth chart FIRST: 

Most of you here already believe in Astrology, numerology and the Esoteric side of reality which is great. But If I have to give you advice about this, ‘don’t just know’, rather ‘document and learn’. 

You might ask me what’s the difference, well, the difference is the first is usually doomscrolling on the internet and found a post that tells you ‘ How you’ll meet your soulmate based on your Venus Sign’ or Jupiter.. And then you’ll check it, see it, and then be like ‘oh cool’ and then forget about it. 

The second one is like being a detective but about yourself. And what I usually have is what I call ‘ The Intelligence Folder of ..( your full name)’ .. 

(yes, I watch a lot of CIA, NCIS and investigative series.)

This is where you write down: 

• Your birthdate 
• Your lucky numbers
• Your worst number combo..
• Your Personal, collective cycles 
• Your Birthchart anomalies
• Your Matrix of destiny numbers. 
• How you’ll meet your soulmate based of your..sign
• The unconscious patterns that you made conscious…etc 

And basically the more you learn, the more you fill it, adjust it, and correct it. 

So now once you have this folder, you can cross reference that information with the astrology, numerology, transits of the next few years, ( or old ones to connect dots) 

For example:

In the past few years, I learned that I have a +75% probability that I’ll meet my soulmate through my content, social media, or most likely my offers. 

Since I've learned that, I've took it as one the signs to launch my own courses..  My first was in  2024 ( funny enough it includes the 5 steps to Quantum Shifting) and the Quantum Formula is an upgraded version.

Then in 2025, I have launched 4 offers and created an agency. 

But because of my intelligence folder, I knew I won't meet a soulmate in a collective year 9 (Relationships in that year (2025)  have a higher probability of not lasting)

 But did I say “oh I'll wait for 2026”?  No. I took it as a testing phase so I can improve my course creation skills, launch skills, speaking skills..curriculum skills..

Some people didn't understand why I was doing this.

But in my mind, I have a goal which is to BE BETTER no matter the results. So when I launch the next one, I'm one step closer to aligning with that higher timeline.

Especially knowing that I'm a foreigner who's launching in the US market.

I knew I had more skills to acquire than the average American..

For example: upgrading my 3rd language articulation (Yes, English is my third ..I had my first official English class at 10 years old)

I'd say after writing +90 long-form letters, and +700 short-form posts that attracted half a million followers, I'm confidently slightly better than the average American at writing. Definitely slightly upper in emotional storytelling…But speaking? Not there yet.

I have to improve ALOTT to even BE better than an average American at speaking. I have to upgrade: 

• How I think (in English) 
• How I speak 
• How I articulate 
• How I create rhythms
• How I do annotations. 

Once you hold all these variables in your mind, you know you have to work not just harder, but smarter and more focused into your strengths so your weaknesses can naturally improve too.

If I just focused on the soulmate part, or my weakness to JUST record videos? Most likely, I'd never be as good as I am today in writing. 

• Writing is the medium to learning how you think. 
• Writing is the foundation of speaking. (Scripts, Structure..) 
• Speaking Psychology has 90% writing psychology as a foundation.

So the manifestation is just the aftermath of that evolution of YOU. 

Your readiness, your natural resonance.

2) How To Shift Your Reality To Naturally Attract A Soulmate:

 

Now, for you to evolve, you’ll have to shift your own timeline. 

To shift a timeline, you’ll need to shift the 4 main variables of reality creation. 

This is what I call the IFAR system ( created by me, wink wink) which is explained inside The Quantum Formula. 

Quick note on the side: The Quantum Formula is focused on the Wealth and creator business domain, but the equations and systems inside are UNIVERSAL. 

With that being said, 

Let me show you how the IFAR system works on love relationships. 

 

1) Upgrading Your Identity = (I) 

Upgrading your identity is about who you are at your core. 

• Not who you pretend to be on social media. 
• Not the mask you wear when you're scared. 
• Not the character you play outside. 

But the REAL you. The REAL character of you. 

Since the reality you’re living is based of the program installed in your mind and you are the player of that program ( hence why all basic manifestation offers tell you to reprogram your subconscious mind)

Yet  my 5 years of studying spirituality and applying these techniques, I realized that the FIRST step is to upgrade ‘ The player’ , not ‘ The Program’ 

Think about it this way: 

In 2016 when we used to play Candy Crush, the more you upgrade your skills, the more you level up right? 

• The Game is The Program. 
• You are The Player. 

Imagine if we upgrade the program first, what would happen?

 Instead of having level 100, we’ll have Level 300.

 As a player, are you automatically upgraded when the game has been upgraded? No. 

But if you upgrade the player from level 70 to level 101.. You’re most likely going to force the program to upgrade. 

Why? 

Because as a conscious creator of your reality you are also the programmer, not just the player. 

And that my friend why upgrading identity is the first. 

When we apply this to relationships, think: 

• Your style 
• Your looks 
• Your aesthetics 
• Your boundaries. 
• Your self-worth. 
• Your standards.

It's about becoming someone who naturally attracts what they desire, not because they're pretending, but because they've genuinely evolved into that version.

 

2) Raising Your Frequency = (F) 

Frequency now is about the Program. 

Your frequency is your emotional state, your energy, the vibe you carry into every room, every post, every conversation, every offer you launch.

This is where most people get confused. 

They upgrade their identity but still operate from a frequency of lack, or desperation. 

Since Emotions = Energy in Motion. 

It’s the intersection of Mind And Body. 

So what usually happens once you start upgrading your identity ( The player): 

You have this new exciting energy in you, motivation..

But what happens later? 

If you don’t maintain that frequency long enough to BE your new program, you’ll find yourself going back into the old loop.

This is why, every relationship coach out there would tell you: 

• Love bombing in the beginning is a red flag. 
• Someone’s words don't equal their actions is a red flag.
• Someone who's intensely interested then suddenly pulls away is a red flag.

Why?  It’s simply because it’s NOT their baseline frequency 

So that said, 

The program ( Or Frequency)  would upgrade when you upgrade the emotional operating system it runs on.. and keep it running consistently.

 

3) Aligning Your Actions = (A)  

Now Actions my friend, is about creating what’s in your heart. 

This is about the vehicle or the container in which you’ll naturally attract a soulmate. 

The (I) and the (F) variables would not shift your timeline if you don’t have a creation to pour energy and action into. 

This is why, 

• You can affirm MILLION times but you’ll always attract the same persona. 
• You can heal all your relationships wounds, and still not get it. 
• You can regulate, meditate, reach the 12th dimension but you won’t ever attract a higher soulmate. 

Once you’re actively scaling a business, a creative project..etc You are also actively shifting your own program.

• Your habits would evolve
• Your behaviors would evolve
• Your environment would evolve.

What’s the aftermath of that evolution? 

• You’re mostly going to meet new people, clients, and students.
• Be in new environments, and situations.
• Have new problems to take action on.

For example, I’d like to think that my soulmate has faced some type of problem in her life that made her want to learn a system to break out of it. 

Hence, they joined the Quantum Formula. ( I hope anyway) or maybe they followed my account, who knows. 

The goal here is not to control the outcomes, chasing, and praying, but to evolve as a person so you naturally evolve into that higher timeline. 

 

4) Releasing Residue ( R)

Now this is my magic variable. 

This is the one most people skip because it's uncomfortable. They want to manifest their soulmate while:

• Still holding onto their toxic ex. 
• Still carrying wounds from past relationships. 
• Still believing the stories their parents told them about love.

Residue is everything that's keeping you stuck in your old timeline.

• It's the limiting beliefs you're still operating from. 
• It's the unhealed trauma you're still carrying. 
• It's the patterns you keep repeating without even realizing it.
•  It's the energy you're still giving to people who don't deserve it.
•  It's the version of yourself you're clinging to because it feels safe, even though it's keeping you small.

Releasing residue means you do the actual inner work. 

You go to therapy. You journal. You forgive for real. You let go for real. You stop romanticizing the past and start focusing on the future.

For me, releasing residue meant letting go of the idea that I need to be perfect before I'm worthy of love. It meant releasing the belief that my accent or my third language makes me less valuable. It meant understanding that my fear of being on camera is just old programming.. not my truth.

• It meant forgiving myself for the times I played small.
• For the times I stayed in situations that didn't serve me. 
• For the times I dimmed my light because I was scared of being too ‘weird’ or ‘too sensitive’.

The truth is, you can't hold a new reality in your hands if they're still full of the old one.

• You have to make space. 
• You have to release what no longer serves you. 
• You have to understand that the residue isn't protecting you.. it's preventing you.

The moment you release it is the moment you create the space for what you actually want to enter.

 

The Truth About Timeline Shifting

 

To shift a timeline, all four variables ( IFAR) need to work together. Not just one. Not just two. All four.

You can't just upgrade your identity and expect everything to change. You need to also raise your frequency, align your actions, and release your residue.

This is how you actually shift timelines. 

This is how you move from being someone who's searching for love to someone who naturally attracts it. ( In business, it’s like upgrading your tools, creating a website, doing the most before you ever make a sale) 

And here's the part that nobody wants to hear but needs to:

The timeline you're trying to shift into? 

Your soulmate is already there.

 But you can't access that timeline until you become the version of yourself who belongs there.

• That's why the work is necessary. 
• That's why evolution is non-negotiable. 
• That's why you can't skip steps.

Your soulmate isn't waiting for you to find them. 

They're waiting for you to become someone who can recognize them when they show up. 

Someone who can hold that level of love without self-sabotaging. 

Someone who's done enough inner work to not project their wounds onto the relationship.

This is not about being perfect, or evolved in all areas of life. 

I have to admit that I'm not the most social person.

 But I have an excellent ability to listen, understand and relate. (My 70-year-old neighbor would sometimes stop me to talk for like 10 minutes about his life. I believe he loves it.)

And maybe that's exactly what my soulmate needs.

• Maybe they don't need me to be the extroverted person in the room. 
• Maybe they need someone who listens. 
• Someone who understands. 

Someone who's brave enough to build their dream business even when they're terrified. Someone who writes letters at 2am on a full moon because they had an inspiration that might help the world. 

Maybe they need exactly who I'm becoming.

And maybe you're becoming exactly who your soulmate needs too.

• So do the work for you. 
•  Become THAT person. 
• Trust the timing.

And when it happens, you'll understand why it had to happen exactly when it did.

See you next week.

Ons